Comments on: It’s Hard Out Here for a Perfectionist – Who’s Not http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/ On Her Flying Trapeze - Blog of Seattle-Area Mom, Kathryn Young Thompson Sat, 31 Dec 2011 21:14:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: bluecrown http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/comment-page-2/#comment-6528 bluecrown Mon, 11 Sep 2006 16:22:47 +0000 http://www.daringyoungmom.com/index.php/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/#comment-6528 I just heard this great piece of advise that i haven't put into practice yet. The first thing you should do each day is get the machines working for you (i.e. dishwasher and washing machine). But i do have to say that life with little kids is just plain hard. My kids are finally a bit older and it is amazing to me the difference it makes. Two are in school all day and i am left at home with a 4 year old and so much freedom i don't hardly know what to do with myself. it is a wonderful feeling. for every thing there is a season. I just heard this great piece of advise that i haven’t put into practice yet. The first thing you should do each day is get the machines working for you (i.e. dishwasher and washing machine). But i do have to say that life with little kids is just plain hard. My kids are finally a bit older and it is amazing to me the difference it makes. Two are in school all day and i am left at home with a 4 year old and so much freedom i don’t hardly know what to do with myself. it is a wonderful feeling. for every thing there is a season.

]]> By: Mary http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/comment-page-2/#comment-6374 Mary Sat, 02 Sep 2006 01:21:50 +0000 http://www.daringyoungmom.com/index.php/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/#comment-6374 I love that you called it "project day!" Everyone has days like that, and no one wants the visiting teachers or any other person show up unexpectedly to see the house in all its glory. I would have felt totally embarrassed too. It's hard to be in a new place, trying to make new friends, but judging on your fun and insightful blog, you will do just fine, even if your livingroom was a mess when the girls stopped by. How cool of them to just pop in! I love that you called it “project day!” Everyone has days like that, and no one wants the visiting teachers or any other person show up unexpectedly to see the house in all its glory. I would have felt totally embarrassed too. It’s hard to be in a new place, trying to make new friends, but judging on your fun and insightful blog, you will do just fine, even if your livingroom was a mess when the girls stopped by. How cool of them to just pop in!

]]> By: mother of the wild boys http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/comment-page-2/#comment-6369 mother of the wild boys Fri, 01 Sep 2006 22:01:02 +0000 http://www.daringyoungmom.com/index.php/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/#comment-6369 DYM, I've been reading your blog for a few months without ever commenting, but now I have to say something. First, you are awesome, reading your blog is part of my relax time. Second, its' so good to hear that other people's houses are messy and disorganized. My husband likes to joke about my paper-piles and unfinished projects, not to mention my dissappointingly unfinished to do lists. :) With 3 (wild) boys ages 5, 4, and 2, I have a few sayings that I use: 1. A clean house is a good life wasted. (this one is a sign hanging on my front door, as a warning to potential visitors) 2. If you are here to see me, come on in. If you are here to see my house, make an appointment. 3. Having kids is God's way of saying your house is too clean. Keep up the good work! DYM, I’ve been reading your blog for a few months without ever commenting, but now I have to say something. First, you are awesome, reading your blog is part of my relax time. Second, its’ so good to hear that other people’s houses are messy and disorganized. My husband likes to joke about my paper-piles and unfinished projects, not to mention my dissappointingly unfinished to do lists. :)
With 3 (wild) boys ages 5, 4, and 2, I have a few sayings that I use:
1. A clean house is a good life wasted. (this one is a sign hanging on my front door, as a warning to potential visitors)
2. If you are here to see me, come on in. If you are here to see my house, make an appointment.
3. Having kids is God’s way of saying your house is too clean.
Keep up the good work!

]]> By: irene http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/comment-page-2/#comment-6367 irene Fri, 01 Sep 2006 20:06:55 +0000 http://www.daringyoungmom.com/index.php/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/#comment-6367 Kathryn, I used to be such a perfectionist I would be early for every appointment, and now I'm 15 minutes late 70% of the time. I know what you're talking about. I'm continually haunted by all the things I know I should be doing but have not done, I look at the mess around me and I wonder how anybody could live with this, I feel defeated before I even start and so I don't start. It's really hard and I don't have any answers, but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Kathryn, I used to be such a perfectionist I would be early for every appointment, and now I’m 15 minutes late 70% of the time. I know what you’re talking about. I’m continually haunted by all the things I know I should be doing but have not done, I look at the mess around me and I wonder how anybody could live with this, I feel defeated before I even start and so I don’t start. It’s really hard and I don’t have any answers, but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

]]> By: KYouell http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/comment-page-2/#comment-6365 KYouell Fri, 01 Sep 2006 18:59:06 +0000 http://www.daringyoungmom.com/index.php/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/#comment-6365 I have a similar problem in that all I see is the overwhelming task ahead and have a very hard time breaking it down into small tasks that can be done. I'm trying the FlyLady way. I had 2 friends send it to me & it just seemed like a sign. I especially like the part about you aren't behind, just start where you are. http://www.flylady.com/ I have a similar problem in that all I see is the overwhelming task ahead and have a very hard time breaking it down into small tasks that can be done. I’m trying the FlyLady way. I had 2 friends send it to me & it just seemed like a sign. I especially like the part about you aren’t behind, just start where you are.

http://www.flylady.com/

]]> By: The Daring One http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/comment-page-2/#comment-6357 The Daring One Fri, 01 Sep 2006 04:23:04 +0000 http://www.daringyoungmom.com/index.php/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/#comment-6357 I honestly was excited to see them at my door. They were out on a walk and decided to include me. I think they knew I needed them. I honestly was excited to see them at my door. They were out on a walk and decided to include me. I think they knew I needed them.

]]> By: Trivial Mom http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/comment-page-1/#comment-6356 Trivial Mom Fri, 01 Sep 2006 02:57:53 +0000 http://www.daringyoungmom.com/index.php/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/#comment-6356 You know, a friend of mine (who's house is always spotless, I don't think her two year old even plays with toys) went into labor unexpectantly and I, being the awesome friend that I am, went over to her house and through her stuff to get everything she needed at the hospital. Can I tell you it was the most awsome experience. She's not perfect, she had unfolded laundry on her couch, the closets were a mess, the dishes weren't even rinsed in the sink, oh it made me soooo happy. Is that wrong? Well anyways, it turns out she's just really good at throwing things in the dishwasher and kicking things into closets when unexpected guests arrive. I guess that still takes having a fairly clean house. But it made me feel better, and able to relate to her more, knowing she's not always perfect. You know, a friend of mine (who’s house is always spotless, I don’t think her two year old even plays with toys) went into labor unexpectantly and I, being the awesome friend that I am, went over to her house and through her stuff to get everything she needed at the hospital. Can I tell you it was the most awsome experience. She’s not perfect, she had unfolded laundry on her couch, the closets were a mess, the dishes weren’t even rinsed in the sink, oh it made me soooo happy. Is that wrong? Well anyways, it turns out she’s just really good at throwing things in the dishwasher and kicking things into closets when unexpected guests arrive. I guess that still takes having a fairly clean house. But it made me feel better, and able to relate to her more, knowing she’s not always perfect.

]]> By: Heidi http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/comment-page-1/#comment-6355 Heidi Fri, 01 Sep 2006 01:26:54 +0000 http://www.daringyoungmom.com/index.php/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/#comment-6355 And yes, if it didn't occur to you to be indignant, I'd be more than happy to feel it for you! And yes, if it didn’t occur to you to be indignant, I’d be more than happy to feel it for you!

]]> By: Heidi http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/comment-page-1/#comment-6354 Heidi Fri, 01 Sep 2006 01:22:39 +0000 http://www.daringyoungmom.com/index.php/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/#comment-6354 Whoa, hold on there, little missy. How utterly and completely rude of someone to show up at your home without warning. RUDE, I tell you! (And don't even get me STARTED on the peeing...) This wasn't your sister or your best friend, these were people you don't even know. They may have had the best of intentions, but they need to teach some manners in that new congregation of yours. Whoa, hold on there, little missy. How utterly and completely rude of someone to show up at your home without warning. RUDE, I tell you! (And don’t even get me STARTED on the peeing…) This wasn’t your sister or your best friend, these were people you don’t even know. They may have had the best of intentions, but they need to teach some manners in that new congregation of yours.

]]> By: Stacy http://www.daringyoungmom.com/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/comment-page-1/#comment-6353 Stacy Fri, 01 Sep 2006 01:10:24 +0000 http://www.daringyoungmom.com/index.php/2006/08/30/hard-for-perfectionist/#comment-6353 I love your writing and look forward to reading it everyday. Know this, you are a FAR better mother and wife than I will ever hope to be. I cannot cook, clean well, hang towel rods, make poofs, or write and touch so many peoples lives, daily. You are an amazing woman. I love your writing and look forward to reading it everyday. Know this, you are a FAR better mother and wife than I will ever hope to be. I cannot cook, clean well, hang towel rods, make poofs, or write and touch so many peoples lives, daily. You are an amazing woman.

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