Comments on: Are You 100% Positive?

By: sheena

sheena — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 15:45:48 +0000

I tend to get in a pessimistic perfectionist rut too often and I have come to realize that it is from too much work and not enough play. Sometimes instead of trying harder to be happy it is easier to turn on music, dance silly, tell dumb jokes, tickle my grumpy children, and basically be rebellious and weird until the those negative times have faded. Sometimes it’s okay to just plain get mad and fed up too and let it show….it might help the little ones realize it’s okay to not be perfect also. I have six perfectionists and they remind me in their actions sometimes that life has become too rigid. So, I turn into the idiotic weirdo I truly am until they are goofing off themselves and joining in the fun. Laughter I believe cures many things…at least around this place! Now if I could just find something funny about all of this flu and colds we keep having! any ideas?

By: Julie Q.

Julie Q. — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 15:35:28 +0000

Amazing what a little starvation will do to pierce through the clouds of confusion. I’m one who needs to work on the negativity too. Kids are so much more perceptive than we think.

By: Heather O.

Heather O. — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 16:04:15 +0000

I second The Wiz’s comment about that book by Martin Seligman, “The Optimistic Child”. It has drastically changed how I parent, how I talk, how I feel about things. The other night, I burned dinner, which threw me into all kinds of existential home-makery angst, y’know, the kind that brings a momma to tears. I knew things were okay when my son said, “Mom, sometimes life is just like that. It’s okay.”

Seriously, ya gotta get this book, and you will be amazed. Truly amazed. It also talks about how you can immunize your child against dpression later in life, which, in this day and age, can be huge.

By: Baby Dumpling's Poppa

Baby Dumpling's Poppa — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 04:31:45 +0000

I guess I’m lucky. My wife is one of those happy, positive people 90% of the time. She started working on me to pay attention to how and what I say long before Baby Dumpling arrived and she still reminds me when I forget. I think the untraining will be the hardest for you like it is for me. Just remember you cannot climb the mountain in 1 step and sometimes you need to go down in order to go up but in the end you’ll see sights you never thought existed.
What a concept, humor without sarcasim.

By: KYouell

KYouell — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 03:10:37 +0000

I know that I should really like the good, observant parenting tips you laid out, but I already know what a mimic our son is and not to take the kids to the store at losing our minds o’clock — and, frankly, I expect you will write about those things in a hilarious way. I came back and read this twice because of the answered prayer. You wrote about it so well I could *feel* it myself. No wonder you got such a swift and powerful answer because, apparently, lots of us need it. Next time my hubby asks me if I’m reading another mommy blog I’ll tell him I’m listening for God.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 00:58:33 +0000

That post rang very true for me.
Sometimes when I re-read my very own blog, I hear a sarcastic cynicism in there that I didn’t even know I had. I’m sure I do that in my conversations, too. It’s something I need to address.
Thanks for the post…it’s woken me up!
Debbie

By: Kimberly (sassy piggy)

Kimberly (sassy piggy) — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 19:36:00 +0000

Kids can pick up on the slightest shift…even non-verbal. I posted about this a while back, wallowing in my mommy-guilt. You can read it at http://sassypiggy.blogspot.com/search/label/parenthood
My hubs and I are pretty sarcastic, opinionated people (but nice ones, too!) and we’ve tried to watch it a little more since our little one is turning into a little mimic. Even good parents goof!

By: Rachel H

Rachel H — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 14:35:16 +0000

Obviously you’ve struck a cord with just about every parent of young child on the planet- and It sounds like you are on the right track. I was “caught” one day by my DD whilst making “fun” of Dora to my friend, and now she totally usaes the EXACT same phrase to sarcastically talk about Dora. I was shocked at her observantness! It certainly made me think twice about what I say in front of my kids! Children seem to reflect our imperfections in ways we rather them not!

I am totally with you on the path to becoming more positive, patient, and a good example overall! My mom always used to quote the scripture, “By small and simple things are great things brought to pass.” Small and Simple, and slowly but surely!

By: Sketchy

Sketchy — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 21:19:25 +0000

Sometimes its tough having to be the grown up. But like so much about motherhood if you don’t do it, it probably won’t ever get done. I love that you are trying to take this one on.

By: Brooke

Brooke — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 21:15:14 +0000

So I have a litttle boy who is 4 and lately he has a LOT of attitude and is rude and bossy to gis il sis. Reading this story put it allllll into perspective! He gets it from us and we have to be better to show him how to be nicer.

Oh – and I loooove how you said …LOOSING OUR MINDS O’CLOCK IN THE EVENING??!! That is the funniest!!! (and very true!)

Thanks for the laugh!