Comments on: Odd Numbers or Bad Things Come in Threes?

By: Dana

Dana — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 17:10:52 +0000

I know how you feel — my body remembers the aches and pains and the emotional lows that is pregnancy. I think a woman can never forget, particularly if she’s had several, and I had 4. Child #4 was hard on my body, and that cemented our decision to stop after that… The labor was long, but, somehow, I was more at peace. I think perhaps because I knew it was my last go-round, and I wanted to remember the experience…such a painful, but precious time.

I did experience a big change with the addition of the third, but, honestly? It had more to do with having 3 children, 5 and under. I feel it’s all related to how old you other children are! So, be encouraged: it may be easier to adjust to your third than these people say, since your other children are past the toddler years!

Also, don’t sign off quite yet on #4. I wanted assurance from my husband that he would be happy to stop at #3…but he wisely didn’t want it as an absolute yet…and a couple years later, I wanted #4. My fourth was a breeze to adjust to, because I had a 7-year-old who was eager to help… We all have to allow ourselves the blessing of time — time to heal, and time to decide.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other, and try not to focus on the future… You have sweet children, and you’re a great mother!

By: Shannon

Shannon — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 23:41:39 +0000

Yes, two to three is a big jump. But it’s a GOOD jump, and it’ll teach you something about yourself. Embrace it!

(And for the record? Three to four isn’t even a speed bump.)

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 04:31:19 +0000

I am right there with you on so many of these things! I’m 6 mos. pregnant with my 3rd, (you recommended your Dr. for me…THANK YOU, once again), and I’m already feeling those stretchings in my pelvis–I don’t remember feeling these so early with the other 2. Not only that, but I have c-sections! Sometimes, I just want to remind my body that it won’t have the opportunity to utilize the loosened cartilage, so it doesn’t really need to relax much in the first place, right? And, I definitely identify with the whole “going from 2 to 3 blows you out of the water” opinions. It can’t be THAT hard. Am I going to eat my words a few months from now? It just can’t be as awful as everyone says. After all, there were a ton of people that told me going from 0 to 1 was a doozy–and it certainly didn’t turn my world upside down. Anyway–I can certainly identify with your thoughts!

By: Jenni

Jenni — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 19:13:33 +0000

I too have been feeling the same way! I’m 5 1/2 months pregnant with our third girl and have been pretty nervous about the whole going from 2 to 3, but I just keep saying God won’t give me more than I can handle. I also waddle way too much!!

By: Lady of Perpetual Chaos

Lady of Perpetual Chaos — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:29:49 +0000

I have the same nervousness when contemplating #3. Except my #2 was only 6 pounds. ;o) I hope your transition from 2 to 3 will be wonderful. And, even if it isn’t, your kids are lucky to have such a loving mom who keeps trying.

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 21:50:48 +0000

I have 4 kids 9,6,2 1/2, and 4 months. I was ready for 3 to kick my butt! Instead it was great!
now 4 is doing the kicking. I think it’s how you space them! You will be just fine!

By: Emily C

Emily C — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 21:06:03 +0000

Can I say that in my family growing up there were four of us. “The bigs” and “the littles”. I was kid number 3, and was designated a “little” until I was nearly 16. More often than not, I wanted to play with my older siblings but couldn’t because then my baby sister would whine and moan and complain.

I think 3 can work MARVELOUSLY, especially if they’re all loved and cared for.

By: Heidi

Heidi — Thu, 28 May 2009 21:38:39 +0000

We prefer pairs of sisters, two sets (total of four) at a time. But wait, you’re talking babies, not cats, aren’t you? Okay then, moving on.

By: Keryn

Keryn — Thu, 28 May 2009 19:01:40 +0000

Two-to-three wasn’t so bad for me, even though number three has spina bifida and needs a bit more care. But three-to-four? It’s been six months and I’m still not sure I’m going to survive. (Or that I want to. They have naps in heaven, don’t they?)

By: Holly

Holly — Thu, 28 May 2009 17:34:48 +0000

Do whatever works for you and your family. I was the third and last child in my family, with six years between me and my older brother (we were girl, boy, girl, just like your kids). My husband has a similar story – third and final child, with a five year gap. We both turned out just fine. It’s fun to have older siblings – they play with you but there isn’t any fighting/competition.

Whatever ends up happening I’m sure you’ll all be fine.